How to be a chill bride, not a raging Bridezilla

Planning a wedding comes with plenty of stress, worry, and fears that something might go wrong on the big day. But the bride need not unleash her inner monster during the planning phase and in the days leading up to the special day – she can keep her cool throughout the whole process. Here are some tips to achieve that chill-bride vibe.

Wear your problem-solver hat on Every problem has a solution. These problems are typically for the wedding planner to take care of, but if you’re planning your own wedding then talk to all vendors and suppliers about potential issues and challenges. Leverage their professional expertise to come up with solutions.

Be flexible There’s no need to go crazy over what’s considered “standard” – go with your and the groom’s preferences and what’s best for the couple and the guests at the same time. Don’t wallow over the smallest inconvenience, and accept what went wrong. Try your best to come up with a great alternative or solution.

Trust the vendors You chose the wedding vendors and suppliers for a reason: they’re experienced and good at what they do. Rely on their expertise and don’t fuss over what they should be fussing about in the first place.

Don’t micromanage Give the bridesmaids direction or some sort of guideline on what to do or wear, and be organized with the photographer. But don’t micromanage and don’t shadow them every step of the way. They’re adults and they know what to do, especially how to make the wedding a success!


Douglas Grady is an event planner who is passionate about meeting new people and planning large-scale events. He majored in communications and public relations at the University of Washington. At present, his work is based in Orange County, California. Read more on this page.